Hard-to-Loves

hard-to-loves. those people who just really rub ya the wrong way, you know what i mean?

when you work in healthcare, your goal is to care for everyone {obvi}. and those of us who openly share our experiences as healthcare providers well… we like to share all the fun and exciting stuff about our jobs. but we see this idea all over social media – this common concept that people would rather share the glamorous things while keeping the raw, emotional stuff behind the screen. so we try to be real and raw and genuine, but even still those ‘real’ photos usually have a filter.

so in light of valentine’s day, here is my confession about love: some of my patients are really difficult to work with. they complain. they refuse therapy. they say rude things. they act out. they cry. sometimes they swear.

people can truly suck the energy out of me. but that is why it is so so important to actively choose to love them.

in Matthew 5, Jesus talks about exactly this when He says “I’m telling you to love your enemies. let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. when someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. this is what God does. He gives His best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. if all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that… you’re kingdom subjects. now live like it. live out your God-created identity. live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.” (the message version)

the patients we deal with on a daily basis are usually in their own raw and real state. we as their healthcare providers are in the unique positioning of interacting with people at their most vulnerable selves. they require love.

so choose love. choose to be persistent. choose to share yourself with them. choose to listen. choose to re-direct and correct out of a desire to see them grow and heal. be the person who stands out in the mainstream healthcare (or otherwise) world based on your capability to actively choose love.

seek to be the person HE created you to be. surrender to Him, and the capability to love will come naturally.

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  1. Yes, I know exactly what you mean… A good post and a great reminder to us all! Being a youth worker I deal with similar situations when I need to love those who aren’t easy to love. It’s challenging and I often fail. But I do my best to shake off any negativity and try again the next time. It’s often times these are the very people that need our love the most.

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